Most Important Gestures of Love

Large, grand gestures are wonderful when you can make them happen. But real, long-lasting, day-to-day love is made up of countless little things. They are the brick and mortar of what two people build together. The grand gestures are like chandeliers, or swimming pools, or expensive silverware and china. They bring elegance and refinement and their own kind of beauty, a beauty that's hard to miss, but how often will you bring out the fine china, or keep the chandelier lit? And how often will you eat off your regular, daily plates and use the table lamp to give you the light you need.

So, the most important gesture in love are the small ones and lemme tell you they are the backbone of a relationship. I believe everyone should understand that there are few small things that can make your partner really haapy and love between the two of you can blossom further. When someone loves you, the way she says your name is different. You know that your name is safe in her mouth. When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared she won't love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only does she still love you, she loves you even more

For me there are 5 such gestures that defines true love..

Those eyes......just that look from your partner which says ' I really really like you. '
That holding of hands........which says ' I understand and trust you completely. '
That slight kiss on the forehead which says ' I respect you. '
That innocent hug.....which says ' I will always be there for you and give you all the happiness in the world. '
And finally those three words....." I Love You ".....which will become your life.

You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget..............

How To Lose A Guy In 6 Days ??

Ever thought of it? i guess, not....
So here is the answer........gals, just give it a shot :)
Plan a day out with him....may be go for a sporting event. When the match gets to it's most interesting phase.....sweetly ask him..'Honey, I am feeling lill thirsty can you get a drink for me?'. Poor guy, he doesn't have an option.....after all she is his girlfriend. He will swear some curses and get back with a Coke......what next?
'Hey sweetie! I asked for a diet coke n look what have you got', Half of his attention is on the match....'Jesus, this match is in the most exciting phase and this girl wants a diet coke' but he goes and by the time he gets back.....it's over boy
Mission I accomplished.

Scene 2...this guy is in the office discussing some important facts with his colleague and you land up. He will be shocked and there you go again....'Dear, are you not happy to see me?'
Boy: of course not. I am happy.
He gives a helpless look to his friends around.
You:but you don't look happy at all. Please tell me the truth
Boy: (soliloquy) If she knows then why has she come here.
You hug him and he will be embarrassed (As far as i know boys don't like public display of affection).
What next? Next day, go for some shopping and get those flowery, loud colored shirt for him. 'Look, wht have i got for you, this will look good on you'.
Boy: Yeah, m sure...
You: hey then why don't you try it for me.
Boy: Pls not now, it's really gud but i can't try it now.
You: I know you don't love me any more. Why don't you tell me if tht's the case.
And you have succeeded in Mission III

Boys generally prefer one boys night out in a week. Well this is the most appropriate time to kick off your next move.
Its 8’O clock at night.
Ding dong……Ding dong…….
As expected, your boy friend opens the door.
You: Surprise! Surprise! Look who has come to meet you.
Boy: Hey why are you here?
Tries to regather himself and be polite at the same time.
Boy: I mean to say I wasn’t expecting you at this hour
You: Ohh…..Honey I just dropped in to check if you are having a nice time
Boy: (soliloquy) For God’s sake, at least give me one day when I can be alone
You: Won’t you call me inside?
And without even waiting for an invitation, just barge in.
You: Hi everyone, having fun guys??
The expression would sum up their feelings. And I am sure you would love it.
You will realize that your hard work has paid off. Try to bore all his friends with your girlish talks and some PJs . This will serve as the icing on the cake.

Job Well done, after effects of which you will experience later.

Coming on to the 5th day.
Your so called boy friend has some get together organized in his office and to your good luck, he has lots of female colleagues to accompany him. Here is your big chance…….
Call him every hour to find out where he is and what he is up to. Tring…tring Triiiingggg….and more Trinngg Triing……
Poor boy does not pick up the phone unaware of what is going to be its outcome.
He comes back at night and you are already at his place.
You: Why were you not taking my calls?
Boy: Dear, I was busy.
You: And may I know what was keeping you busy, those girls who were with you all the time?? I know what are you upto. Don't think that I m a fool.
Boy: Hey come on now u r making a fuss for no reason at all.
You: I knew it.....I m not important for you. You just don't have time for me. I have become a fuss for u.....
And blah blah.....
Smile girl, you are just one step away from success :)

After few SORRY stuff, things will regain normalcy, atleast for the time being.

Now moving on to the sixth and final day.
Just call him and tell that you need to talk to him so he should better stay at home.....

You: I need to talk to you about something important
Boy: Yes honey tell me, just make it a lill fast, I need to reach office early.
You: When will you marry me?

BOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM

Boy: What??? What are you saying?
You: I have a simple question and i need an answer right NOW.
As boys are not prepared for this, generally they don't hve an answer to this.

Boy: I need some time. It's a big responsibility and we should think over it..
And just start all over again.....
You: I know u don't luv me anymore. I should have guessed that you don't have any intention of marrying me. You have changed so much.
After all this discussion.....

Boy: Ok. If you think this way and you feel i don't love you, lets get over this and break off.

yipeee.....finally you have done this. Congratulations !!
You have Lost that guy in 6 days. Mission Accomplished.
To all the girls, please do not try all this stuff on your boy friends. It's just an observation that tend to happen in a relationship.

On a more serious note, i have realized that few things are very important for a successful relationship.
Girls...just try to be yourself always. Don't try to pretend in front of the man with whom you want to spend all your life, because love is also about being yourself and loved for being YOU, only you. Let him live his life. Respect his choices and most importantly TRUST him.

These relationships are like sand held in your hand. Held loosely with an open hand, the sand remains where it is. The minute you close your hand and squeeze tightly to hold on, the sand trickles through your fingers. You may hold onto some of it, but most will be spilled. A relationship is like that. Held loosely, with respect and freedom for the other person, it is likely to remain intact. But held too tightly, too possessively, and the relationship slips away and is lost.

All the above said things also applies to you boys out there. Some other day i will write a blog on 'How to Lose a girl in 5 days' .
Till then try to hold on to your girl friends ;))

Moment in Time

Here is a poem which has touched me a lot.
This poem emphasizes the important of special moments and to appreciate them no matter how long or short they are.


Moment in Time
by Cynthia Kepp

We talked,
We walked,
for a Moment in Time.

You passed through my life that day and left your mark.
You may never pass my way again,
Or you may stay for a lifetime.

No matter what,
I want to say thank you for the impression you made
that will stay with me for eternity.

I enjoyed the walk,
I enjoyed the talk.
I am blessed for that moment in time.

The first time I saw you I knew you would affect my life,
though your role I did not know.
I asked myself, "Why is he alone?
Why does he sit so quiet, all alone?
Is he sad?
Is he glad to be alone?
Is he alone?
Is he lonely?
"There is so much I want to know.

I asked myself, "Why him?
When so many people pass through my life each day,
why him? "

What attracts me to you?
What makes me want to know more? I want to know.

Even if my questions are never answered,
There is one thing I want you to know.
I have been blessed by the effect you had on me in that
Moment in Time.

Mr Minister, Enough Is Enough !

Democracy, it is defined as 'By the people' 'Of the People' and 'FOR the people', but that was past. If I go looking for it's definition today, I will have to come back empty handed. In the aftermath of the 26/11 terror attacks, the word 'democracy' has become meaningless, at least for me. The political establishment is rotten today, the only agenda these guys have is to fight for votes and not for the safety of common man who gives them the power.

I never thought I will ever write on this but sadly I have to.
The only job our politicians have is to address rallies, play blame games, play with the sentiments of people. It's high time, all the junta is demanding accountability from you....Mr Minister.
What have you done for the society? Spent crores of rupees on your Z security or on your useless rallies, your foreign trips? These are the questions every Indian is asking.
Do you have any answers?

Look at Raj Thakrey......he has no business in dividing people in Maharashtra just for the sake of his dirty political ambitions. The jawans, the commandos.....were they just Maharashtrians? the answer is a loud NO.
These brave hearts never bothered for their lives, never asked the community of people before saving them but just did their duty without any differentiation.
Stop dividing India, Mr Minister.

Just hear what the two gentleman Mr Deshmukh's and R.R. Patil has to say in their press conference post completion of the 3 operations at Taj, Oberoi and Nariamn House. Deshmukh came to address the press but it was a pity to see that he didn't know the facts, what was he doing all these days? (Reminder: He is the CM of a state where a national tragedy has occurred).
Coming on to Mr R.R. Patil......When asked if the terror attacks was a result of complete failure of his government.
Guys.....just have a look what he had to say......'Aise bade bade sheharon mein Ek aad hadsa to ho hi jata hai ( meaning, In such big cities small incidents happen), pathetic......was he there rehearsing dialogues of DDLJ. If this is JUST an incident for you, then you should be ashamed of yourself Mr Minister.

There was this gentleman of the government who came on a popular News channel for a discussion. His comments infuriated me further.
According to him, 'the army people could not be provided modern weapons because the priorities are different at different times.' Well......what can I say.
What is your priority Mr Minister?
Is it not your priority to keep your defense system updated?
What do you expect? Do you want the army and police to move around just with an old fashioned World War I time 303 rifle, an ineffective bullet proof jacket?
Are these things not on your priority list?
You are answerable to all the Indians Mr Minister.

Then came the turn of Narenda Modi. As a habit, he came to the terror site and announced a cash compensation of 1 crore rupee and pointed fingers on the PM's speech to the nation.
What was he doing, announcing rewards when just a few days back he was throwing allegations at the very same ATS chief? I guess i should know the answer, it was again a vote game.
The bereaved wife of Mr Hemant Karkare declined to accept the money and gave him a befitting reply. I am hurt, deeply hurt so are most of the Indians. A retrospection is called for immediately. It's time for you politicians to act and restore some of your self respect otherwise it will be too late and you will have to hear more such lines.
Mr Terrorist : I am alive. What more can you do?
Mr Politician : I am alive despite you.

So, Get Going ......Mr Minister, Enough is Enough !

about love ............

I have found almost everything written ever about love to be true. Shakespeare said "Journey end in lovers meeting.".....Ohh what an extraordinary thought. Personally, I have not experienced anything remotely close to that......but i'm more than willing to believe Shakespeare had.

I think about love more than anyone really should. I'm constantly amazed by it's sheer power to alter and define our lives. It was Shakespeare who also said , "Love is blind". Now, that is something I know to be true.

For some, quite inexplicably......love fades, for others love is simply lost. But then, of course love can also be found even if just for a night. And then there's another kind of love. the cruelest kind, the one that almost kills it's victims...it's called unrequited Love. Of that I am expert :))

Most love stories are about people who fall in love with each other. But what about the rest of them?
What about our stories? Those of us who fall in love alone.....
We are the victims of the one-sided affair.
We are the cursed of the loved ones.
We are the unloved ones. The walking wounded. The handicapped without the advantage of a great parking space. Yes, you are looking at one such individual. And I have willingly loved that man for years. The absolute worst years of my life. The worst Christmas, the worst birthdays, New Year's Eves brought in by tears and Valium. Those years I've been in love have been the darkest days of my life .............all because I am cursed by being in love with a person who does not ......and will not love me back.

Those who know me personally will be amazed to hear these words from me......but lemme tell u this is not exactly my story. Most of you wud easily identify with these thoughts.....it might be an exact replica for some of u, for others it may be a small reflection of their life.....m sure of it. This is just one side of 'Being in Love', there is another side to it and we will touch that sometime later.

Getting Started..........

Just the other day, I was surfing through various News Channels (phwee….there are quite a few), one of them had this breaking News.....'Aamir Khan called Shahrukh a dog’. I felt a bit angry and agitated (that proved m still a SRK fan) hence decided to follow the whole story. It was about the blog written by Aamir where he has mentioned about his dog Shahrukh, licking his legs and how much he enjoyed that gesture of his dog.

Apart from the fact that media creates so much hype over trivial issues, the thought that instantly crossed my mind was, how people have so much time to write such small incidents that is just irrelevant to the society and to them as well…..how can people just bring their personal self in front of the entire world? What pleasure they get in doing so? Is it just for popularity or is there anything more to it?....basically, why ppl write blogs?

Few months passed and there I was reading a blog of certain Mr X. Somehow I felt really nice as there was some meaningful stuff written unlike some of the earlier versions( come on guys/gals... don’t use such complicated words that reading blogs does not remain fun but some kind of preparation of GRE ;))……Here I realized what blogging actually is. It is a way to express yourself on anything and everything. You don’t need an audience, this expression is just for yourself ..to help you know yourself a touch better. It is about being myself, what I feel on certain issues…..writing on something which is not even an issue, just a small thought, a not so important incident….It’s just about writing thoughts and ideas which you may or may not share with others.

And the best part is that at times you can write things which is just your imagination and not truth and parallely things which are truth and not your imagination …a perfect blend of imagination and reality, no one will ever be able to know which is what.. (n this way u can get away with murder ;)...thank God i m not a celeb)….. All this can also be written in a diary but then we belong to the 21st century and don’t want ourselves to be locked in a diary, keys of which may be lost at any point. So here I am trying my hands at blogging……..n honestly after writing my first one I can definitely say here is a journey which I have started and wish to continue….ppl who want to join are most welcome.

Thanks a lot Mr X :)

God Bless All !!